If I say it louder, then you’ll agree. If I say it more, then you’ll agree. You must not be listening or hearing me if you don’t agree with me. And, if you don’t agree with me, you don’t respect me!
Sound familiar? Maybe you grew up in a house like this. Maybe your management treats you like this. Maybe you treat your employees like this. Guess what? It’s total BS.
Growing up, my parents made me read things that disagreed with my view to help me critically hone, or change, my opinions, understand different perspectives and learn.
The last several months have shown us the depth of disagreement in our families, cities, country and world. Saying it louder or more won’t make it right and make it so. We need to listen to others respectfully and thoughtfully, and then agree or disagree, just as we want them to listen to us. Disagreeing does not and should not mean, by default, lack of respect.
So, how about trying at least once this week to really listen to someone you disagree with. See it from their perspective. You don’t need to increase the volume or frequency, just talk and listen. Maybe you’ll learn that respect and agreement aren’t synonymous. So, try it! Model it, encourage it – and let me know!